D*I*V*O*R*C*E

This little Twitter exchange today between myself and Hilary White prompted me to start writing some more about the problem of divorce, specifically as it affects Catholics.

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Divorce has horrified me all my life, along with a few other things, such as contraception, and physical immodesty in women. When I was very young indeed – about 5 – I first learned that parents could voluntarily stop having more babies. I didn’t know how or why, but such a thing was horrifying to me. All of these things are an attack upon motherhood, and ever since I could remember (and my memory goes back to two years of age) I wanted to be a mother.

I won’t be all confessional here (as in confessing my sins) but I was neither a deeply religious child, nor always as pure of heart as I was in my earliest childhood. But even at my worst, the old hatred of immodesty, contraception, and divorce remained. Inserted here now is the obligatory sentence about not hating the *people* who do these things. Any comments received that imply I hate people etc will never see the light of day in my comment section. I am highly dictatorial on my blog.

Holy Mother Church teaches that marriage cannot be dissolved. This is true, even though it now seems that “the Church”, via Pope Francis and others, are obviously trying to assault all the Church’s own teachings all at once. That’s another story, but in brief, we must remember that Christ is the Head of His Church, and His Mother, and the Angels and Saints are her holy members. The cretinous men currently running the institutional Church on earth can’t alter anything officially, but they can do a lot of damage to souls – at which they are very skilled.

I’m happy to report that my own childhood was ridiculously happy, and my elders were basically sensible, competent, and sane people, but even they were not immune from the vicious heresies of our time, and which caused some of them grief in their middle age onward.

My elders, born between the years 1907 and 1947, had pretty mushy views on divorce. This was due to two main reasons. One of my elders was a non-practicing Anglican, so he was not formed by the Catholic view of Sacramental Marriage anyhow, but my Catholic elders had lived in a society which had had legal divorce since about the mid nineteenth century. Divorces were still not common, however. No-fault divorce did not arrive in Australia until 1975, after which this disgusting condition – like a hideous disease – spread more virulently. This fairly putrid article gives you a bit of an overview of divorce in Australian law.

It is always the hard cases that push the boundaries. (That’s why I’m sick of them). First, your extended family knows nobody with a divorce, and the next thing you know it’s one here and one there. In the end, two of my Nan’s eight siblings were divorced, and prior to that, one of my Anglican ancestors was sued for divorce after his second marriage fell apart. His first wife had died quite young – probably in childbirth. None of these divorcees ever “remarried.”

The younger generation of elders – my parents’ generation (born between 1938 and 1947) had divorces all over the place and often “remarriages” or shack ups. One of these occurred in the early 70s, the others in the late 80s. Broadening out into wider society: at this time there was a veritable explosion of divorces as the kids finished school and the no-fault time bomb went off. Speaking of the kids – what were we doing? Wearing pastel and losing our virginity, mostly. Our generation’s kids are mostly unbaptised, and many of us never bothered to marry at all. (I am one of the few to buck the trend). Some of our generation’s kids are IVF. These kids don’t even know if they’re boys or girls and will no doubt kill themselves at a greater rate than ever before. You get the idea.

Incidentally, one of the demons responsible for these divorces was almost certainly the “noonday devil” (Psalm 90:6, Douay-Rheims) which Fr Ripperger says is the demon of mid-life crisis.

I cannot think of a single situation which requires a legal divorce. Ironically, unlike marriage, divorce really IS “just a piece of paper.” It’s quite grimly funny, if you think about it.

But now where are we? Well, as I said in my tweet, things are so bad that even among traditional Catholics, people can be very cavalier about divorce. I know veil-wearing, homeschooling, Latin Mass-going-women, who chat amiably about annulments because some marriage or other is going through a rough patch, or someone was abandoned etc. I don’t want to pick on trads, because it’s getting really old (and I am a trad), but this situation I find genuinely alarming. I don’t have any statistics on this, however.

My argument is that if divorce is permitted in law at all, that this will erode the Faith of Catholics regarding the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony and that this is my best argument in favour of a Catholic Confessional State, and against the Secular State, which I consider to be an Abomination.

There are other problems too – such as Catholics marrying outside the Church. This also creates many family problems. The only immediate antidote to this is for parents to lay down the law with their children early on e.g. “If you marry outside the Church, I am not coming to the wedding and will consider your relationship to be mere concubinage.” I have already informed my children of this, and I will back it up with action, because that’s one important way to stop the rot: we need to Make Catholics Great Again.

Every Catholic MUST wrestle with this issue. You’ll all get a dodgy “wedding” invitation at some point. Are you going to contend with your spouse about not going, and not permitting your children to go? Are you going to withstand your engaged daughter’s manipulative hysterics about “ruining” her “wedding” when you tell her you won’t attend? Are you prepared to say to your children, siblings, parents and other wayward Catholic family members “Look! We were all brought up Catholic and I’m trying to be a good Catholic. WHY ARE YOU MAKING *MY* LIFE SO DIFFICULT?” Because that’s what is happening. In families throughout the entire Civilisation Formerly Known As Christendom, family members who are more hedonistic/selfish than their other family members are driving that wedge further and further towards insanity. All of us will have to find a hill to die on. And when you do stand up to these demonically oppressed people (people you love) they will be vicious. As I discovered, you have to learn not to care about their hysteria.

I think I will write a series about this topic, if it’s of interest.

 

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Integralists (TM) Are Evil!

What is integralism?

Dunno, and I care less, but it’s been a topic on #CatholicTwitter lately. As far as I can tell it’s what some people call that part of Church teaching (disputed by some) known as the Social Kingship of Christ.

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The ins and outs of the degree of authority regarding this set of teachings is simply “above my pay grade” and I don’t have the time or energy to study further. I’m a home schooling housewife, not a theologian.

I have laboured here and there over about 12 years to understand this set of teachings – the Social Kingship of Christ – as well as I reasonably can, given my external limitations, so I’m slightly resentful about committed Catholics who seem to blow this off.

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I wrote in a piece a while back, what I thought was a reasonable blog post, about the idea, which I think is true, and which I think I had explained pretty well, that the state is always confessional (update: a confessional state means having a particular religion as the religion of the state). Even when, for that historically very brief moment the state seemed to be neutral, it never really was. For example, it has been a long time that Catholics have suffered under wicked divorce laws.

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Indeed, in any state which recognises civil divorce at all, abandoned Catholic spouses are denied justice, both in law, and socially. Such a state is NOT neutral. It is whatever it is – protestant, or some other weird hybrid thing. And in this state, Catholics are at a disadvantage, particularly with the divorce laws. These laws enable all manner of family strife – and legally impose or sanction it at the expense of the innocent – and actively destroy the religious beliefs of Catholics regarding marriage. Nor does it take very long – in one generation everything can change. How nice and neutral!

I’d be very happy never to discuss the topic, except that it does seem to me to be one of those things which some potential converts will have to at least navigate at some point. It could be a block to conversion, and wishing it away won’t do anything, so I have endeavoured to explain it to others as well as I can.

One of the reasons it seems to touch a nerve is that pragmatists seem to think we all have some kind of plan to actually abolish Sunday trading, for example, in spite of such a policy having (allegedly) only 1% of popular support.

No. I can’t answer for other integralists (if that’s what I am) but for me it’s important to know what a just society looks like – in order to evaluate current laws etc. Whether we can change *anything* is another matter. So far, we can’t even prevent millions of babies being slaughtered in the womb, so the disgrace of Sunday trading is not high on my own list of preferred reforms.

Anti-integralists believe we should do the best with the system we have. In fact, I agree with them there, because it’s not practical to do otherwise. But discussions about whether or not certain policies are a help or hindrance to virtue are extremely important, imo. And that’s the value of discussion the Social Kingship of Christ.

Secular society is not neutral, whatever else it is.

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I need a drink

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Garden Update

Just a brief post with some newer garden photos.

Top left: the wisteria is growing nicely. Will need a bigger stake soon. It is of course a vine, but it can be grown into a small tree with careful training.

Top middle: The day was overcast and it was towards dusk. Even so the grass is looking a very deep green, and I got rid of the clover successfully. In fact, I liked the clover, but I know the Evil HOA won’t like it.

The other photos are some of the flowers I grew from seed. Some didn’t survive the transplanting, but never mind. When my foot gets better I will take some photos of my propagated succulents. 😀

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Ankle surgery and Armageddon and Stuff

It’s probably about time I posted something here.

It’s the growing season, so I have been a bit active in the garden since February. (Note: “gardening” in Australian means “yard work” mostly relating to growing flowers and keeping lawns maintained etc, not narrowly as vegetable growing).

Not *very* active, mind you, but a bit. I would have done more, but my ankles are in bad shape. The worst of the two was operated on last Thursday and my doctor said (after having had a look inside) that it was a “train wreck”. LOL! No wonder I’d been complaining about it. He’s cleaned up the loose cartilage, which apparently doesn’t grow back, and repaired a torn ligament. In a few months from now I hope he’ll fix the other ankle. So, for now I’m hopping around and getting about in a wheelchair.

But enough of that! Back to the garden. I didn’t have the money to spend on lots of plants, so I grew some flowers from seeds, and have been propagating succulents. I did also buy a few plants – Asiatic lilies, azaleas, snapdragon, dianthus, dusty miller and lambs ear – because they were at the local store. I assumed they would grow here.

I live in a standard suburb, with an aggressive Home Owners’ Association, so we have to have everything all cookie cutter like. My main aim has been to keep them off our backs, by fixing obvious problems in the front garden (yard), particularly the lawn, which had been somewhat neglected due to a sprinkler problem last year in the summer. I do have a gardener who comes once a week to mow the lawn, which is great. My job has been to ensure various soil treatments have been applied, do some manual weeding in the lawn and beds, ensure proper watering and stuff like that. My younger boys have had fun helping me to grow flowers and veggies. They usually water the pot plants, which is very helpful now that I’m down for the count.

Anyway, here are some pics.

These are from back in March. I will post some more recent ones soon.

So that covers my ankles and the garden. Now what about Armageddon?

Mundabor recently wrote a post that I completely agree with. Yes, the situation in the Church is extremely bad, and really God will have to fix it. But He will do it with the help of men, and we must each do our part.

So, shall we just avoid the controversies surrounding Pope Francis and limit ourselves to praying the rosary and writing about edifying material? If you have followed this blog even only a couple of days, you know my answer.

There is an awful lot of material, online and in books, for those who want to deepen their knowledge of traditional Catholicism. This blog, and many others, have plenty of information on the matter for the one who is willing to search. Thank God, the Internet has put this information within the reach of pretty much everyone in the English speaking world.

Blogging is, however, a more immediate form of communication than a book; and it therefore allows a faster reaction when things go wrong. A war is raging, and Satan is clearly very influent in the Vatican. I for myself am not going to spend the time I have for blogging in further explanations about the Works of Mercy or the meaning of the word “charity”. Plenty of resources for that; actually even on this blog, but pretty much everywhere.

No, this is not the time to retreat to a kind of devotional blogging, or spiritual blogging retreat. This is the time to follow St Michael. The reduction of Catholic blogging to online Catholic fare without reference to the war that is raging is tantamount to giving Francis all the liberty he wants, and to wreck everything he wants, safe in the knowledge that Catholic bloggers will focus on the Joyous Mysteries, or on pious toughts on the day of the Ascension.

In times of war you need, first of all, warriors. Cooks may be useful, byt they don’t win wars. The Crusaders never stopped thinking whether it would have been better to stop the war and start spiritual exercises instead. They knew it was the time for war, and they acted accordingly.

Pray your rosary, my dear reader.

And then go on the Internet and blog, comment, retweet, “like”, do all you can to help in the war that is raging.

As for me, my Christian name means “Famous Warrior Maid”. So there’s that.

And this just in today, is very… interesting.

NEWCASTLE, Australia, May 22, 2018 (LifeSiteNews) – Adelaide Archbishop Philip Wilson is now the highest-ranked Catholic prelate to have been convicted of covering up sex abuse. The Australian archbishop, who is in the early stages of Alzheimer’s, faces two years in prison.

He will be sentenced on June 19.

I’m particularly interested, because he was my Archbishop when we lived in Adelaide, from 2002 – 2007. So, let’s see. First of all, he is facing a two year sentence. And how much time does the average convicted rapist do, I wonder? He has been convicted of covering up a crime. He still denies that he was told anything by anyone. This may or may not be true, I’m just stating the facts as reported. Also, I have no respect at all for any prelate in the Church right now. Not one of them has opposed Francis’s wrecking of the Church in the way he should have, and many of them I suspect are actual criminals. No, my interest is largely based on the fact that the Australian Establishment is simply out to get Catholic clergy however they can. Look, I’ll begin to be impressed by these supposed efforts to convict clergy of failure to report crimes when they do the same to other churches, organisations, and especially state schools. Sorry, but I don’t believe these cynics care about victims of crime at all. No, what they really want is to persecute the Church and specifically in Australia, they want to destroy the Seal of the Confessional. They have been after our Sacrament for years.

According to the Associated Press, one of the altar boys allegedly told Wilson about it in the confessional. Priests risk excommunication for revealing anything said to them in the confessional.

The Catholic Church teaches that the seal of confession is an essential part of that sacrament, so that people can freely confess their sins and be forgiven. The seal of confession has become an issue in some parts of the world, including Australia, where some want Catholic priests to reveal things heard in Confession if related to sex abuse.

“Given the delicacy and greatness of this ministry and the respect due to persons, the Church declares that every priest who hears confessions is bound under very severe penalties to keep absolute secrecy regarding the sins that his penitents have confessed to him. He can make no use of knowledge that confession gives him about penitents’ lives,” the Catechism of the Catholic Church instructs (CCC 1467). “This secret, which admits of no exceptions, is called the ‘sacramental seal,’ because what the penitent has made known to the priest remains ‘sealed’ by the sacrament.”

Don’t be fooled, the public broadcaster, the ABC, in particular, only wants to see the Catholic Church persecuted on account of its (now very weak) resistance to All Things Progressive. If it even remotely cared about victims of sex abuse, it would go after all the people who have been committing such crimes and covering them up.

As for the alleged “cover up” of crimes by Archbishop Wilson, even if he had not denied having done so, what exactly do we expect of people in authority when such accusations are brought to them? Presumption of innocence means that the accused has certain rights and we are not at liberty to overrule them. It’s not a matter of believing or not believing the alleged victim, but it is a matter of establishing that a crime has been committed. I don’t even know what people in authority should do in such situations. Do you?

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Imaginary Relationships

I read an article today from a few years back, which highlighted a certain aspect of male-female interactions. It was very interesting and inadvertently explains some of the rational behind Catholic morals regarding sex.

The writer, whom I will refer to as The Guru, is a woman in late middle age and very worldly, so her sexual morals are not something I endorse. For this reason also, I will not link to her website etc. However, her understanding of the basic psychological differences between men and women are very helpful, for married and unmarried women alike. Probably, men reading her would think she is insane, due to her irrational approach to emotions. For this reason, also, a Catholic woman would have to read her through a heavily Catholic filter.

But in the article I read, she was counseling a young woman who was heartbroken over a love affair. I say “love affair” but the love was all in the young woman’s mind (and not only because it doesn’t stack up to the Catholic concept of marital love). She had considered herself to be “in a relationship” with a man, because he liked being with her, called her often, took her on dates, and they had sexual relations on many occasions.

The Guru, as kindly as she could, and while obviously caring for this young woman, told her that the relationship was imaginary – it had only ever existed in her mind. The Guru explained what had really happened: the man had asked the woman out on dates, and had asked her for sex, and she had agreed. That’s it! That’s the sum total of the “relationship.” He wanted to remain “friends” presumably because of the benefits.

This little story – as painful as almost any modern woman would find it, because it’s so horribly close to the bone – is the simple reality. Men and women do not have the same expectations of a relationship. A man only has a relationship with a woman, essentially because of his own desires. He desires to marry, so he finds a good woman and marries her. Or, more romantically, he falls in love with a woman (usually – maybe always) because she has somehow facilitated an intense emotional bond to form. If he is not a virtuous man, he might perhaps marry for whatever vestiges of morals remain in society, and he will leave the marriage as soon as his own rationale for being married evaporate. A woman today will certainly leave her marriage for selfish reasons, but in more traditional set ups, a woman is far less likely to leave her husband. Catholic morals have always tended to help both spouses, particularly the man, remain within the marriage during the unavoidable rough patches. I’m inclined to think that all marriages reach breaking point, and some “break.” (Strictly not, but that’s another topic).

Women will never – as a group – really be able to thrive in “love affairs”. There are certainly some exceptions, and I might even mention a few some other time. But women were made to be cherished by men, and it’s only marriage which can facilitate that.

There are no guarantees either. That’s life, I’m sad to say. But for the Christian, there is a Higher Love, Who can always be relied upon.

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I Hate Divorce

“And this again have you done, you have covered the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping, and bellowing, so that I have no more a regard to sacrifice, neither do I accept any atonement at your hands. [14] And you have said: For what cause? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee, and the wife of thy youth, whom thou hast despised: yet she was thy partner, and the wife of thy covenant. [15] Did not one make her, and she is the residue of his spirit? And what doth one seek, but the seed of God? Keep then your spirit, and despise not the wife of thy youth.” ~ Malachi 2

I cannot now find the disgusting article I briefly scanned yesterday, but it was written about “what to do” when your ex-husband or ex-wife “marries” someone new. The basic advice was, if for example, they like their step parent, put your children’s feelings ahead of your own, because that’s what being a parent means blah blah.

Sorry, no. The time to do that was *before* you got divorced, you cretin. (I’m addressing the article author there). There are many issues at play, but there is no way that good behaviour can be determined by the feelings of one person or another. Good grief! This is simply a nightmare of a minefield of emotions.

No, what we need here – and at all times – are good morals. Let me demonstrate.

Take the situation of an abandoned husband, who did nothing seriously deserving of marital separation (ie no violence, or adultery). These days it’s more likely that women will leave their husbands for no good reason. So, the idiotic article advised that he simply has to lump everything because everyone else’s feeeeeeeelings come first. This is because the only rule that now exists is that adulterers should never feel bad. That would be wrong! And mean. And judgmental.

Let me give our fictional man some proper advice. You’ve done nothing seriously wrong if there was no violence in the marriage, you’re not a psychopath, and you didn’t commit adultery. Because your children love and need both you and their mother it is indeed best if you try hard not to slag her off in their presence. This is indeed where you need to try to put their feelings ahead of yours. But here’s the thing. Because the slut left you and is now committing adultery with someone else, doesn’t mean you have to tolerate more embarrassment and general garbage from these adulterers. As far as possible have as little to do with them as you can. While not slagging off their mother, do find a gentle way to tell your children that what she has done is wrong. Do let them know it’s still right for them to love her, but that loving her doesn’t mean agreeing with everything she does. These messages have to be geared towards a child’s maturity level, of course. There is nothing in the Rule Book which says you have to like anything your “ex-wife” (in fact, your wife, regardless of wicked laws) does or says or thinks. You certainly don’t have to like the blackguard she’s committing adultery with (even if they are in a fake “marriage”) or anything about him. Your main job is to protect your poor children from him, if you can, because even if he’s not actually violent to them, he is a very bad example. Unfortunately, the law is not on your side in any of this, so be careful. In most cases, I think, your best way forward is to be as good an example to everyone around you, but that means having firm principles and trying hard to stick to them. You might not think you are needed, but you actually are, more than ever. Things aren’t always as they seem.

Whatever you do, don’t give in to other people’s idiotic views about how you should see things! In this case, you’re right and these two are wrong. It doesn’t give you the right to exact revenge – it gives you the confidence to act justly. Assert your fatherly rights as much as you can.

But what happens when the children start to talk a lot about their mother, and particularly if they talk about their “step father.” You can probably act in a number of reasonable ways, but if it were me, I would simply make it a rule that the children are not allowed to speak to me of this person, unless there is something bad happening that you need to know about, in order to protect them. Make it clear that it’s a rule. You don’t even have to tell them why, because you are their father and they owe you obedience, but you could simply say “because I don’t like it, and I don’t need to hear it.” And you don’t need to hear it. It’s perfectly fine to put your legitimate needs ahead of other people’s whims and nonsense. The poor children are actually in need of strong guidance and that’s actually what you’re giving them here. Don’t teach them to be a doormat.

Do not think a new “relationship” for you will fix things, either. It won’t. It will certainly make things much worse, not least because adultery is evil, and it will eat away at your soul. Don’t be fooled by all the adulterers who seem happy. Incidentally, why do people seem to believe that most marriages are unhappy, but most adulterous relationships are happy? How stupid! If the person you chose to be with the first time made you unhappy, why wouldn’t the second one? Good grief! Don’t people pay attention?

Stop the crap. Grow a brain. Grow a spine. Fix yourself! And then start to fix those around you by simply holding the line. Do this as consistently as possible for about a decade or so, and eventually the semi-reasonable people close to you will “get it” and the rest won’t be worth troubling with. For the obstinate people in your life, you need to pray and fast. Also, keeping contact to a minimum is probably best for all.

This is the best advice you’ll ever get on divorce and “remarriage” (ie adultery) if I say so myself. 🙂

Good luck!

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Catholicism and Anti-Catholicism

I’ve been feeling a bit frustrated, lately, with conversations about the Faith. I’ve been trying to work out exactly why, and I think I’ve worked it out.

Obviously, since I believe the Faith is true, I wish for all souls to be saved, which means that I wish for all souls to become Catholic, and for all Catholics to become holy. This is clearly logical. However, the fact is that most people in the world are not Catholic, and I have no problem accepting that this the reality. To aid a person in becoming a Catholic might require a number of things, and this will tend to vary from person to person.

One thing that will always be required, is the informing of the person about the teachings of the Church. Another thing which will usually be needed is to answer any reasonable questions he has about it. If his questions are unreasonable, it will be because he’s irrational about it: either he loves his sins too much; or he will be afraid of the possible results of his conversion, such as losing friends. There may be other causes of his irrationality – but it is irrational. This leads then, to intellectual dishonesty, and that’s one thing I just can’t stand.

So, basically, that’s the source of my present frustration, as far as I can tell. It doesn’t bother me at all if someone is not yet persuaded to convert, for these things take a lot of time. All I want is to see intellectual honesty. Here is one example: how honest is it for a protestant, or secularist, to be quizzing Catholics about some point of philosophy or doctrine (eg the existence of God, or the corruption of some members of the Catholic clergy) when hundreds and even probably thousands of Catholic writers have *already* answered these same questions over and over and over? Hint: it isn’t.

I’m just about at the point of saying “Google it” to every question, but that’s very much against the heart of a teacher.

People are either becoming Catholic, or they are anti-Catholic and here’s why:

“If the world hate you, know ye, that it hath hated me before you.”

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